Saturday, May 8, 2010
What does your town say about you?
This area I live in is a hard area to get ones foot in the door. What door you may ask. Any door. The people here grew up together, went to preschool together. They had kids together. They don't talk to new comers. They are a click. The sad thing is, I am not sure if they even know it. I have had numerous moms not let me ride on a field trip with them. They have told me their vehicle was full (when it wasn't), or they weren't driving so they couldn't say yes, or just not even offered a ride..... even though I was standing right there asking who was going and who was staying. One time on a field trip I was talking to another mom. All of a sudden she stopped talking and said, "You aren't from here are you?" "No", I replied caught off guard, "How did you know?" "Because you are talking to me," she said, "I am not from here either. Normally no one comes up to me." Wow, this whole time I thought it was ME. I have noticed that the people that I know now, are all transplants like I am. They moved here or married someone from here. We outsiders have a common bond. Another mom told me, "Occasionally 'they' let me peek inside the circle....but not often." Yesterday that same mom told me their house was on the market. You're moving? "Yes", she said. "I have GOT to get out of here. These people are so unfriendly." This saddened me greatly. In my selfishness I hope they stay. Although I understand completely. The next time you see someone sitting alone at a sports event or school function, walk over and say hello. Meet someone new. Who knows, you could even make a new friend.